I Know Mario The perfectionist

Reaching out to your friend/colleague isn’t always easy but may go a long way to help them. Here are a few tips on starting a conversation with Mario:

Find a good time and place. Not in the drivers room when people are coming and going. Also, not when Mario is time poor. Suggest going for a coffee/drink after work or finding a spot that is free from distractions. Focus on what you have noticed and try to add something positive. “Mario I’ve noticed that you look really stressed and not enjoying your job. I understand it is hard when people do the wrong thing, but can you share why it worries you so much?

Encourage and support Mario to talk: “Mario are you ok mate? I mean really OK? You seem really stressed. Do you want to talk about what is making you upset, I’m worried you are going to blow a gasket!” “Mario, I respect that you are really good at following the company rules. Not everyone finds it so easy. Do you want to talk about why you get so upset when someone else does the wrong thing?”Mario, have you seen the Signal for help website? I had a look yesterday and it was great. Those stories could be any of us, and I want you to know I am here if you want to talk about it.” Don’t use criticism or guilt to get them to talk to you.

If Mario doesn’t want to talk, invite him to talk to you when he is ready. It is not your role to be a health professional, but you could play a role to help Mario attend his doctor to gain the right treatment. The best support might be making an appointment for him and offering to drive and wait for him. Or supporting him to speak to his supervisor, review this website or talk when he is ready.


Anxiety can be successfully treated. By understanding what treatment options there are, you can provide the necessary support and direction to your friend/family/colleague to access a treatment that supports them.

To learn more about anxiety and how it can be managed, please click here.


Your local GP or mental health practitioner can help you understand mental health and provide advice. Other good links for you to review or people to talk to include:

Beyond Blue https://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/anxiety

Black Dog Institute https://www.blackdoginstitute.org.au/

Lifeline https://www.lifeline.org.au/get-help/information-and-support/anxiety

If you want to talk to someone for free you can

Mensline https://mensline.org.au (free confidential online and telephone counselling service for men)

Mindspot https://www.mindspot.org.au

Living with a mental health condition looks different for everyone.
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